I feel like during this pregnancy I will have a lot to talk about. This pregnancy is already so much different than with Asher. I seem to have more worry's than before. I guess it is because I like to plan things. I like to already know what is going to happen and have a plan. So when something unexpected happens, I seem to have a difficult time adapting at first.
One thing I am so grateful for this time is my amazing friends. I have an amazing family as well but sometimes you just need your friends and someone to vent to.
When I found out I was pregnant with Asher we were overjoyed and so excited. Once we announced and stopped going out on the weekends things started to change with friendships. Like they say "have a baby and see how many of your friends are still around." Since Adam and I were no longer going out, we didn't see too many of our friends except for a few.
When Asher arrived we were overjoyed with all the love from our friends and family and all the visitors, calls, and texts. We had a lot of visitors in the hospital and also at home. I had a few friends that would come to visit on a regular basis when we were home.
The first few weeks I felt alone. I had family but this whole adjusting period to being a mom and not speaking to half the friends I used to was difficult. My conversations now revolved around baby and sleep.
There was a huge turning point after those first few weeks. I'm not sure how it happened but it really happened at the perfect time. One of my good friends from high school reached out to me and suggested we get together. From the day she came to visit with little Asher we reconnected our friendship and she has been such a life saver in my life! She started getting me out of the house a few times a week and made me go out to do things. I wanted to stay coped up in the house and didn't think it was possible to be in public with an infant. Her and I started going for walks regularly and doing a lot together. She was my rock and I relied on her for so much. I would call her panicking if Asher even coughed. I used to call her bawling my eyes out because I just couldn't get my shit together. Her and her family are still very close with us!
As I sat on my bathroom floor bawling my eyes out that I was pregnant again, she was calling me overjoyed and telling me everything will be okay! Her and I can relate on so much and are a lot alike.
There is another very close friend of mine that I couldn't imagine not having her in my life. Kind of funny we are as close as we are. The first time I ever met her was at a bar. She has known my husband for years actually. When we would go out I would see her out and have a drink with her. We never really talked other than that. We ended up being pregnant at the same time so through facebook we would connect and chat a little, like each others posts, ya know small stuff. Once both our babies were born we continued our friendship on facebook. We have a mutual friend that also has a little one around our kiddos age. Us 3 started having play dates on a regular basis. From then on we just clicked! We literally do everything together. She is my bestie that I do all our trips and activities with that I share on this blog. Her and I are different but kind of the same. I think that is what makes us click so well. She has really gotten me out of the house and showed me you just do it! We travel everywhere together! I love that when one of our kids is being a handful the other will step in right away to help. We know when each other is at our breaking point and help diffuse the situation. She is always there for a shoulder to cry on and vise versa.
Asher also has a Godmother that is very active in his life. She does not have children of her own but she is amazing with Asher. We don't always get to see her, but she checks in frequently. I also have my best friend from middle school. Our schedules never line but I do talk to her on the daily. She is still always a phone call away and the time we do spend with her I cherish.
I am fortunate for all my new friends that have come into my life and even the ones that I have currently just connected with. Even though some of my friends do not have kids, they try to understand and don't mind that I can't always be kid less! Like one of my newest friends! She is so dear to me as well. She currently does not have children, but wishes for her own one day. We have vent/rant sessions. These really help me get back to real life and move on from the situation. She has anxiety like I do so we can relate so well when certain situations arise. We are both very organized people. Her more than me. She is keeping me sane through this pregnancy and helping me literally reorganize my whole house! And yes, we do this for fun! These are the type of friends one needs to have in their lives
I may not have as many friends as I once did but the ones I have are very dear to me. I couldn't imagine doing life without any of them. I know this time I won't have that "alone" period. They won't let me! I know I will have so many to reach out to when I need to cry or vent and they won't turn me away because they understand!
Momma of 2