Step one was to redo Asher's closet and make room for the baby's things. It was a total success and really helped ease my anxiety. Step 2 was to get Asher's big boy bed set up and to move all the furniture around. I am so happy with how their room has turned out. Asher has already made the transition into his big boy bed! He took to it so well and is actually sleeping better in it.
For those who don't know the story I'll quickly fill you in! This pregnancy was not planned. It was a huge shock to us and we had planned that Asher would be an only child. Our home was a complete renovation home. When we bought it, it had 4 bedrooms. 3 bedrooms upstairs and 1 off the living room downstairs. Well Adam and I decided we wanted a bigger master bedroom and knocked down a wall combining 2 rooms to make 1. So that only leave 2 bedrooms up stairs and 1 downstairs off the living room. Our son is only 22 months old and I do not feel comfortable at all with him being down there all my himself.
Originally when we found out I was pregnant we were configuring of how to put the wall back up. We actually decided not to put the wall back up and that we could make it work with the kids sharing. Asher's bedroom is on the smaller side and I was convinced that it would not be possible. But we made it work and I am really happy with the outcome! Eventually once one of them is old enough and asks they will be able to have their own room!
Since our bedroom is so big we were able to move the rocking chair and dresser/changing table into our bedroom. Which will be great when we are up in the middle of the night with her and wont have to disturb Asher.
You can check out the full closet reno here:
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Let's start from the beginning so everyone knows the story! 2 years ago my husband and I purchased a home built in 1962. It was a "Hud" home and best way to explain it is that it was like a foreclosure. The house needed ALOT of work! With a small budget and 30 days to have it completed we transformed every room in this house!
Our son was born June 2016. After his first Christmas I was so overwhelmed with all of his toys! There needed to be a designated place in the house for all of these toys. *Side note* I am a very organized/ everything needs a place kind of person. So this mess scattered all throughout our home drove me nuts!
We have an unfinished basement. How perfect! My husband and I went to Home Depot, got our supplies, & now it's time to build Asher a playroom! It took us sometime, but right before Asher's 1st birthday we had a playroom. All of those birthday toys went to the playroom.
I had big hopes of this playroom. I wanted to do certain things and had a big vision. Well that vision was bigger than our bank account. I bought a few items to help with storage of the toys, but honestly everything was just thrown down there. It didn't bother me though because Asher loved his playroom and when we had guests over it's not like they saw the room.
Jan 2nd 2018 we started off the New Year with a pipe bursting in our home. It was an awful experience. The whole basement was under water, along with our living room, which is where the pipe that had burst was located. Asher's whole playroom was floating. Everything he had just received for Christmas was ruined.
We literally finished the playroom 6 months ago and now it was under water. It was heartbreaking watching them carry the carpet out, cutting the dry wall, and throwing out a majority of my son's toys. All the sleepless nights my husband and I spent down there making that room for our son. We decided it would be a much faster process if we just "cashed out" the rooms and did all the work ourselves. Which it was so much quicker! Best decision ever!
With this playroom I knew I had to approach it differently. Not only was the first playroom an unorganized, throw toys everywhere mess, but we are expecting a little girl in May. Some say I jumped the gun way too quickly on this, but hey, I am not redoing this playroom for years! Like i'm talking once the kids are teenagers and this playroom is no longer "cool". I'm over it. Haha. So here is the reno of the playroom yet again. This time I hired a Interior Decorator! We made a his & her playroom and I absolutely love it!
My interior decorator is so talented! I have so many wonderful things to say about her! She has wonderful taste and understands I am on somewhat of a budget! Together we went and purchased all the items and set the whole room up. She did 2 other rooms in my house as well that I absolutely love!
This is the best before picture I had. This is with all of the water and what Asher's first playroom looked like.
This is during the renovation. 2 ft of drywall and insulation had to be cut out because of the water.
I would of loved to of changed the color of the playroom! For some reason we had unopened paint left over from the first time around, so to cut costs it remains blue.
All of the items for the playroom were purchased at Target, HomeGoods, or Amazon. 3 of my favorite stores!! Asher loves his new playroom! I think his favorite part is the chalkboard wall! Which you can see daddy has enjoyed that wall himself.
Links to where I got the Teepee's & Kids Table:
My husband and I purchased our home 2 years ago. It was called a "Hud home" and was owned by the government. Kind of like a foreclosure! The house needed alot of work before we could move in. It was a 4 bedroom home when we bought it. While doing renovations we decided to combine 2 rooms and have a huge master suite. I was pregnant at the time with Asher. How perfect, one room for us, one room for Asher, and a room for my office downstairs. It was perfect. Asher was to be an only child.
Fast forward to present time and we are expecting our second child. Not a perfect situation. Once we found out I was pregnant I was so bent out of shape about the bedroom situation. I literally drew up 3 plans of putting the wall back up and giving this little girl her own room!
Asher's bedroom is very tiny. He is only 20 months, loves his crib, and there is no way I could have him in the office. Our house is kind of like a Bi-Level. From our dining room you go down 5 steps and our laundry room, living room, 1/2 bath , and office is there. Along with a door to go into the backyard. I feel Asher is no way old enough to be in the office all by himself while we are upstairs. After finally regrouping, taking measurements, and really getting a game plan together. I have decided that they can share Asher's room!
We have a huge playroom off the living room that is for the most part our entire basement. All the kids literally will do it sleep in their room. Asher will be able to move into the office once he is older and wants his own room. So this lead me to project kids room! This room is getting a major overhaul! We started with the closet first, which is what I am going to share with you guys today. I am awaiting some wall decals and we will be setting up Asher's big boy bed within the week.
82" Height 55" Wide
I was able to reuse the shelf and one of the white cabinets we already had. Which really helps save money.
Shelf (already had)
2 white cubby cabinets (purchased at home de pot, roughly $34 each)
6ft rod (purchased at home de pot, roughly $10)
Mounting brackets ( purchased at home de pot, roughly $3 each)
First I had to repaint the closet because I originally painted the closet green. Now it is white! Once everything was dry we stacked the cabinets on top of each other. We then secured them to the wall so they could not fall if the kids tried to climb them! Then I measured out and cut the rod to make 4 clothing racks! Unfortunately I forgot to take a before photo! But believe me, the old closet looked nothing like this!
I am so proud of the kids closet! We had to remove the dresser because the bedroom is so small. We now have all the space we need and were able to put all the items from the dresser in the closet!
I feel like during this pregnancy I will have a lot to talk about. This pregnancy is already so much different than with Asher. I seem to have more worry's than before. I guess it is because I like to plan things. I like to already know what is going to happen and have a plan. So when something unexpected happens, I seem to have a difficult time adapting at first.
One thing I am so grateful for this time is my amazing friends. I have an amazing family as well but sometimes you just need your friends and someone to vent to.
When I found out I was pregnant with Asher we were overjoyed and so excited. Once we announced and stopped going out on the weekends things started to change with friendships. Like they say "have a baby and see how many of your friends are still around." Since Adam and I were no longer going out, we didn't see too many of our friends except for a few.
When Asher arrived we were overjoyed with all the love from our friends and family and all the visitors, calls, and texts. We had a lot of visitors in the hospital and also at home. I had a few friends that would come to visit on a regular basis when we were home.
The first few weeks I felt alone. I had family but this whole adjusting period to being a mom and not speaking to half the friends I used to was difficult. My conversations now revolved around baby and sleep.
There was a huge turning point after those first few weeks. I'm not sure how it happened but it really happened at the perfect time. One of my good friends from high school reached out to me and suggested we get together. From the day she came to visit with little Asher we reconnected our friendship and she has been such a life saver in my life! She started getting me out of the house a few times a week and made me go out to do things. I wanted to stay coped up in the house and didn't think it was possible to be in public with an infant. Her and I started going for walks regularly and doing a lot together. She was my rock and I relied on her for so much. I would call her panicking if Asher even coughed. I used to call her bawling my eyes out because I just couldn't get my shit together. Her and her family are still very close with us!
As I sat on my bathroom floor bawling my eyes out that I was pregnant again, she was calling me overjoyed and telling me everything will be okay! Her and I can relate on so much and are a lot alike.
There is another very close friend of mine that I couldn't imagine not having her in my life. Kind of funny we are as close as we are. The first time I ever met her was at a bar. She has known my husband for years actually. When we would go out I would see her out and have a drink with her. We never really talked other than that. We ended up being pregnant at the same time so through facebook we would connect and chat a little, like each others posts, ya know small stuff. Once both our babies were born we continued our friendship on facebook. We have a mutual friend that also has a little one around our kiddos age. Us 3 started having play dates on a regular basis. From then on we just clicked! We literally do everything together. She is my bestie that I do all our trips and activities with that I share on this blog. Her and I are different but kind of the same. I think that is what makes us click so well. She has really gotten me out of the house and showed me you just do it! We travel everywhere together! I love that when one of our kids is being a handful the other will step in right away to help. We know when each other is at our breaking point and help diffuse the situation. She is always there for a shoulder to cry on and vise versa.
Asher also has a Godmother that is very active in his life. She does not have children of her own but she is amazing with Asher. We don't always get to see her, but she checks in frequently. I also have my best friend from middle school. Our schedules never line but I do talk to her on the daily. She is still always a phone call away and the time we do spend with her I cherish.
I am fortunate for all my new friends that have come into my life and even the ones that I have currently just connected with. Even though some of my friends do not have kids, they try to understand and don't mind that I can't always be kid less! Like one of my newest friends! She is so dear to me as well. She currently does not have children, but wishes for her own one day. We have vent/rant sessions. These really help me get back to real life and move on from the situation. She has anxiety like I do so we can relate so well when certain situations arise. We are both very organized people. Her more than me. She is keeping me sane through this pregnancy and helping me literally reorganize my whole house! And yes, we do this for fun! These are the type of friends one needs to have in their lives
I may not have as many friends as I once did but the ones I have are very dear to me. I couldn't imagine doing life without any of them. I know this time I won't have that "alone" period. They won't let me! I know I will have so many to reach out to when I need to cry or vent and they won't turn me away because they understand!
I'm just going to start here with monday night.
After working all day and now am exhausted and nauseous, my day was not complete and I had a huge list of things I needed to get accomplished before bed. From not feeling well, our credit card getting hacked, exhaustion, and lets just say husbands in general, I was beyond done! I could not handle anymore. This sickness this time around is killing me. And when I don't feel well and have a huge list that needs accomplished, I sometimes lose it. So monday night I lost it.
I'm still coming to terms with this pregnancy. I understand some people are like "what is your deal? Your pregnant. Like so what. Be happy". I do take that into consideration when I'm complaining. I know there are people out there that struggle with getting pregnant and would love to be me and be having their second child. I just didn't think this was for me. I never really dreamed that when I would grow up I would want to be a mom and do this and that with my kids. I was just like ummm, yeah, I think I would like a kid or so 1 day? Well that day came and we had Asher. I thought he was enough and that my heart could not love the same to another tiny human. Along with tons of other scary thoughts about being pregnant again, delivery, raising 2 children, and the list goes on. Well this sickness really gets to me and can make me extremely angry!
Adam and I went to bed monday night without saying a word. I sat in Asher's room while he slept just looking at how perfect he is. How I never want him to think I don't love him. How selfish I am for not embracing this pregnancy. How I let this sickness take over my thought process.
Tuesday morning. Ugh mornings. I was able to function which was a plus because we had our first ultrasound to get to. I was still in a negative mood.
Once at the appointment they were having computer trouble and the wait was ridiculous! I wanted to puke. I'm now hungry and miserable. After being in the waiting room for 45mins we finally get to go back and get on with our appointment. I forgot how many times people congratulate you when your pregnant. I honestly felt like Miranda from Sex and the City faking my ultrasound. Everyone saying "congratulations! how exciting!" And I'm putting on my fake smile responding with "Yeah were pretty excited! Not planned but can't wait!" When I really was trying not to puke all over the person standing in front of me. (Remind you Adam and I havent said all but 3 words to each other since bedtime & this morning. Which doesn't help my mood.) Once seeing the baby though my mood lightened a little. It made me scared to have 2 kids, but I started accepting the idea and since we did find out the gender, I did start thinking of ideas in my head.
After my appointment I went home to my sleeping little boy. I tried to nap, but literally as I closed my eyes and started to drift off I heard Asher over the monitor. No nap for mommy. Yesterday was so beautiful out and I knew we could all use some fresh air. Including the dog. So that is was we did.
As I raked the leaves for Asher to jump into and heard his little giggles and that huge smile on his face I felt better. I am not the best mom, but I am not the worst mom. I can do this if I put my mind to it and don't let it wonder. Being outside in the warmth was what we all needed. Axel enjoyed playing ball. While Asher played in the leaves and his rock box with his trucks. And I just took a moment to catch my breath and take it all in. My mood did a 360 once we came back inside and thats what I needed. I needed to hit the reset button!
For about 3 weeks I felt very run down and my stomach just did not feel right. I would feel nauseous on and off. Finally I had enough and decided I need to make a doctors appointment. Something just was not right.
The night before my doctors appointment my husband and I had a talk. I said I highly doubt it could be that I'm pregnant, I just don't feel well. My husband agreed and said "I highly doubt pregnancy as well". Adam then says "but if you are I want us to be excited about another baby". I couldn't believe the words I was hearing out of his mouth. My husband, the one that only ever wanted 1 child. But now, now my husband is talking nonsense about being excited and how he always thought it would be cool to have a boy first and then a little girl. Someone replaced my husband that night.
The next day rolls around and I am ill. I can hardly get out of bed. I'm nauseous, and to top it off vomiting. As i'm laying on the bathroom floor just trying not to get sick again my sweet little boy comes over and starts rubbing my head. The light bulb clicked! I'm pregnant! I don't know for sure, but I will find out at my doctors appointment, which is in 4 hours. I couldn't wait I had to know now! I pulled myself up off the bathroom floor, rinsed my mouth, put on some sunglasses and off to the store I went.
Asher is beyond tired and ready for his morning nap when we arrive to Giant. AWESOME! Just great. My child is a screaming mess and I'm trying not to puke everywhere. As I get to the isle I need Asher has a complete melt down! Which then makes me start tearing up just thinking "OH MY GOSH I cannot be pregnant, I can not do this." Finally make it to check out and on the way home we go.
Once finally at home I lay Asher upstairs for his nap. He literally was out within 30 seconds. Poor fella was tired. I go downstairs to our half bath and get out my pregnancy test. In my head I'm saying "there is no way". Well you know how they say wait 3 minutes for results? HA! more like instant. There is was 2 pink lines. I immediately started bawling. We were so set on Asher being an only child. I never wanted to be pregnant again. It literally was my most nightmare that I would become pregnant again.
Still bawling my eyes out I snap a picture to my husband with the caption "this explains it all". Which proceeds by him calling me. Adam is beyond joyed..... So happy! (someone seriously replaced my husband). So that was that I am pregnant. I proceeded to my doctors appointment and asked her to confirm just in case it was a false positive. Which as I figured, it wasn't. I was still in fact pregnant. 7 weeks pregnant to be exact.
The next few days I struggled a lot. Not only with just being super sick, but with the fact that literally everything was about to change. My nightmare is now real life. Adam couldn't of been anymore supportive and super excited. For 3 days straight I had major panic attacks and doubted that I could go through another pregnancy and be a good mom.
We wanted to wait and announce it to my family over the weekend. I couldn't wait any longer. I needed my mom. I needed her to tell me everything was okay. I called my mom and told her I was not okay. One of the things my mom said to me was "Amber it's okay to have 2 kids. That is very common". "I wanted you to have a sibling". She was right! I was acting like your only suppose to have 1 child and that it is! I did always think it would be nice when Asher (and if he had any siblings) were older that they would come over for dinners and holidays. Also, not that I like to think about it but when Adam and I are gone Asher will now have someone and wont be alone.
Even at 26 I will admit I still need my mom. Since telling my mom a lot of my fears have vanished and I am able to be very excited to welcome this little bundle of joy! We have a lot of changes that will be taking place but I am trying to embrace them and make it all positive. I do not enjoy being as sick as I am, but I know it is all worth it in the end!
God has other plans for us and I need to sit back and enjoy the ride. Instead of trying to be in control of it.
We will be a family of 4 (5 including Axel :]) in June 2018
Momma of 2